Yes, I can “see” things without using my five physical senses. Yes, I can sometimes know things about events or situations before they happen. Yes, I can sense what is going on with someone underneath the surface. Yes, I can read cards and other oracle tools to gain insight into situations or relationships. Yes, I can sometimes talk to the souls of loved ones on the Other Side.
And NO, none of this makes me “special”.
I believe these are all innate abilities that we each have within ourselves. The only difference is some of us may be a bit more in tune with them than others. But anyone can harness these innate abilities to some extent with dedication and practice.
This is why I no longer call my intuitive abilities “gifts”. Because that makes it seem that I have received something special that you have not. And I don’t believe that is true.
It is possible I was born with a more natural affinity to them than most, but I have worked hard to cultivate my abilities because I love being able to use them to help others. People generally come to me for intuitive guidance not because I was born with some special gift, but because my unique way of communicating this guidance resonates with them on some level or they have heard from others who had a good experience.
But all this comes more from thousands of hours in meditation, practice, and study as well my own personality and desire to help others than it does from my natural intuitive ability.
Beware The “Gifted”
The more “special” or “gifted” a psychic or medium purports to be – such as advertising as being from X generations of psychics, touting their special “gifts”, claiming to be the only person who can do something – the more cautious you should be about using their services.
Early in my development, I had lunch with a couple of fellow students from a Tarot class. Our talk turned to the subject of whether everyone had intuitive ability. I felt strongly that we all have it – like a muscle that gets bigger when you exercise it. But one of my fellow students insisted that he was special because he “talks to Spirit 24/7”. He believed this was a gift belonging only to him or perhaps a very select few.
I was genuinely interested in why he felt that way. It was so different from my experience and my beliefs and I wanted to understand. But when I asked him, he immediately became angry, red-faced and confrontational. He began pointing at strangers in the restaurant, shouting “HE doesn’t have it! And SHE doesn’t have it!”. And he stormed out of the lunch (without paying I might add!).
Needless to say, I was appalled – as were my fellow Tarot students and all the fellow diners in the restaurant – at his outburst of rage. But I also felt bad for him, because this was clearly a display of pure ego and insecurity. I suspect he wasn’t used to anyone challenging his abilities being a “gift”, and he felt threatened in a way I couldn’t have imagined when we began our discussion.
Suddenly, I played back previous things I had witnessed from this guy in my head and it all made sense…
- …Hiding in the corner and searching through his Tarot deck face up to cherry pick a few specific cards when asked to do a Tarot reading. Then lying and bragging to the teacher and the class about his “special” results that he got from Spirit.
- … Hearing him repeatedly brag that was Spirit told him he was going to be on the radio and TV by the end of the year. Last time I checked (4 years later), this still had not happened.
- …Watching him insist to others that Spirit told him that he was meant to be romantic partners with another guy from a class – a heterosexual man who was in a relationship with a woman.
- …Listening to him brag about accosted unsuspecting strangers on the street to give them a taste of a reading – to be followed by his intuitive business card where they could by an appointment.
- …Feeling sorry for him as I watched him go into a mental tailspin – convinced he had lost his “gift” – because a misguided fellow student somehow convinced him that he had dismissed his spirit guides in favor of a new upgraded team that would work with him.
I don’t believe for a moment that Spirit would work with someone whose primary motive was to be famous. I don’t believe they would encourage someone to stalk a person who could never return their romantic interest. I don’t believe Spirit would insist on forcing communication with people who were not ready to hear from their loved ones on the other side – particularly as a way of drumming up business. I also don’t believe Spirit would abandon someone just because someone else believed they were doing some silly ritual to “upgrade” that person’s guides!
Years later I checked and this guy was still open for business. Still insisting on his special gifts and special connection to “Spirit”. Still doing readings for people. I wonder how many of them know there are better options and you don’t have to believe someone who insists they are “special”.
But he is hardly alone. The psychic world is filled with people just like him. The more gifted and special they tout themselves to be, the more it typically means they are insecure and sometimes possibly even unstable.
Born This Way
The most authentic psychics and mediums I have met all believe that everyone is born with these natural abilities. Those of us who cultivate them and do readings for others see our jobs not as a way to to pad our wallets, or to puff ourselves up as being special or better than others. But rather as a way to serve as examples that there is more to life than what we see with our five senses. And to prove that there are intuitive or spiritual sources of guidance out there that are available for our Highest Good.
The best spiritual teachers and intuitive readers will teach you that they are no different than you.
If you are interested in developing your own innate abilities – and you DO have them – I always recommend to everyone the same starting point to everyone: Meditation, meditation, meditation!
We Are All One,